Social Media Stars Making a Social Impact: Why & How Bobby BF Parihar of Balwant Francisco Is Helping To Change Our World
An Interview With Edward Sylvan
What I do is have these insightful conversations to help move people through what limits or blocks them from achieving success. I catch your attention pretty quickly because I am a career salesperson. I have an entertaining engagement with my audience, I consider them my friends and social circle. So I really start with this warm friendship that holds a promise of transformation for us both.
As a part of my series about leaders who are using their social media platform to make a significant social impact, I had the pleasure of interviewing Bobby BF Parihar.
Bobby is a spiritual, wealth, and wellness speaker on a mission. To create a profound sense of self-awareness through motivational speaking and Numerology. Using this powerful language since 2014, Bobby has had thousands of conversations helping people navigate through love and family, wealth and success, even loss and transition As a life passion, Bobby raises a family of five kids with his wife and partner Sally on Vancouver Island, Canada.
Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
My parents have been self-employed retail business owners since I was 2 years old. I was immersed in the happenings of everyday people who traveled through the mall. Their lives, problems, and just their daily ‘getting-by’ as we sold them clothing. What I saw was that my mom and dad weren’t just business owners. They were also mentors, strategists, matchmakers, and therapists, amongst other hats they had to wear. Looking back at their lives, we lose count on all the amazing connections, stories, and people they helped along their path.
My dad’s advice for me was to get a solid education, career and company to thrive within. He warned me that the rollercoaster of business and retail wasn’t worth the thrills. I was too young to understand at the time, but I didn’t commit the effort required to pass my classes anyways. I wasn’t finding any confidence in continuing college. So I went on the job hunt to finally realize that I wasn’t a very committed employee either. It took me over 30 jobs to finally jump into being a direct sales entrepreneur. I didn’t have that overnight success I was looking for here either. At the age of 30 I was still single and living at home with mom and dad. I wasn’t really measuring my success at that point.
Over those 20 years, what I didn’t realize was the commitment I DID make to mastery of Customer Service. I made a philosophy around the value of someone’s spending ability. I learned how hard they had to work for how little they had to spend. I held this appreciation for their business while they chose to spend those dollars with me. I had done something right for that customer, I had given them a yes feeling. I empowered them to take a step into a direction they were wanting to go into anyways.
I started to get a really big satisfaction for developing success for my clients. Through my jobs I often grew into training and teaching positions, helping colleagues and departments to achieve transformation in their role. This was a theme across the different industries I worked in, from food to footwear, and from call centers to door to door sales.
But having my own business, now it was my role to help create wealth and success with others. But I had such a failure mechanism that I didn’t realize how out of alignment I was. I just kept stubbornly pressing forward. I felt like I was climbing up a hill of river rocks, while there is a paved staircase escalator beside me. I just didn’t understand why I was always making things so hard on myself.
Along with my self-discovery, my mentor told me that there was this secret ingredient, the missing key. He told me that it was strange and different but that I had to check it out. He told me I had to get a numerology session. I didn’t realize that I had fallen so low in my business journey that I would then consult a spiritual reason for my success blocks. It was a very strange tension because I also truly enjoy spirituality and all things mystical, but I didn’t realize the boardroom and the meditation space were about to merge so hard.
I learned about my Life Path, my name, and its connection to my life. It was basically like watching my destiny build me up, and then seeing how my fate took me into a different direction. It was sincerely amazing. Watching my life like someone had me coded in a program was surreal and I had this feeling like my entire universe was turning inside out, and my reality was closing in on me. There was a really spooky effect where the camera starts to pan out and you see the whole path as if its shrinking. Like my son says, “up up and away”. It was actually dizzying.
How does my birthday know the challenge I am going through? How did my name pin my character down to a tee? How do I interpret time now? And what is free choice then? Is everything predetermined? I was really confused. What was worse, my excited passion took off and I started studying numbers myself. Trying to prove them right or wrong, I was just lost in fascination. There was so much insight I was getting into other people through their satisfaction of what I was saying as a complete bewildered stranger.
I reluctantly looked at this ability and shelved it for a few years. I was so used to failure and loyal to the business that I kept it secret and hidden. Some of my friends started asking me if I was willing to read some numbers for them if they paid me. In 2017 I was in business for real.
Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you began this career?
There was one time when I was invited to speak in Australia in late 2018. I had met Sally and she had 3 small kids at the time, she was pregnant with my first son. She thought it would have been a great idea to also travel a bit and see her family in the Philippines as well as my friend living in Shanghai at the time.
I was still adjusting to being a dad and didn’t realize how much time it would take to get my pregnant Sally and the kids organized in an Uber across the highway. We got to the airport to travel to catch a connection flight 10 minutes after they closed the desk to receive us. It was a heart-sinking moment as I watched a family’s worth of non-refundable plane tickets go up in the air without us.
What to do… I was basically stuck at the airport. I let everyone know I missed my flight. The kids were playing in the airport while I was doing sessions for the next day nonstop, being so blessed that we were able to afford a new set of tickets and help do in-person sessions in an Aussie Airport. I found a set of coin-operated massage chairs and set up my station. It was an event I’ll never forget. A feeling of help and support, turning our misfortune into a blessed opportunity we were in so much humble appreciation for our community who came to our side during a really scary time. Everyone was saying how lucky they were to be able to have their time with me in person, and that it was truly a blessing that we got an extra day in Queensland.
Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?
When I first started my social media journey I was obsessed with the selfie stick. There was a set of videos where I was holding my stick in very suggestive manner on my waist like I was handling an upward erection. I didn’t realize it when I was passionately describing how excited I was at the time of filming. But when I was watching the replays, it looked like I had my hands in my pants the entire time! It took a long time for my friends to let me live that one down.
You have been blessed with success in a career path that can be challenging. Do you have any words of advice for others who may want to embark on this career path, but seem daunted by the prospect of failure?
I would have to let you know that if you’re afraid of failure, you may not have what it takes to create the success you truly want in your life. There is a saying that the master fails more times than the failure even tries.
I wouldn’t feel too bad about this in general. Humans are smart creatures, designed to avoid pain. This is a natural selection safety mechanism. The juiciest rewards are at dangerous heights. They aren’t low-hanging fruit. One of the greatest unexpected mysteries is that social media already has you broadcasting yourself aimlessly anyways. The “Me” Movement puts cameras on all of us, instead of one camera at someone. We are the centre of our own media looking for our own rating approval as a way of identifying our self-worth. This is one of the most powerful marketing giants we know today.
I would love for us all to remember that whether or not you’re selling anything or building anything, you are still selling and building your name with every communication you make. One day you will look back on your life anyways, did you document it with purpose? Did you leave something inspiring for your kids to find? Did you press on for yourself or others? Successful or not, I want to leave something impactful behind for my family and audience to reflect on.
Ok super. Let’s now jump to the core focus of our interview. Can you describe to our readers how you are using your platform to make a significant social impact?
What I do is have these insightful conversations to help move people through what limits or blocks them from achieving success. I catch your attention pretty quickly because I am a career salesperson. I have an entertaining engagement with my audience, I consider them my friends and social circle. So I really start with this warm friendship that holds a promise of transformation for us both.
I hold group sessions, Go Lives, and private webinars and workshops to help people navigate through their lives using the power of numbers, and frequency alignment.
I am demystifying these huge challenges that face us as a society: Self-worth, Our Ability, Our Validation, and Constant Transformation. There is too much mess out there, not enough message. Being able to have this friendly, warm, and inviting conversation offers a nonchalant, surface-level approach to the biggest reasons why we feel blocked in life.
I can show a strong female with a powerful wealth backbone where in her chart she finds herself intimidating partners. I can show a parent with a strong-willed child where to create peace and purposefully help them through their energy. I can take a look at a longing lover and help them realize the value of worth and wealth they hold intrinsically, in order to reflect that destined soulmate relationship outward to enjoy.
I show people the powerful spaces of alignment for planning a pregnancy, name, or even a home address or business vibration. A sense of security is so treasured in an uncertain world. Being able to have a technical look at a mystical space turns us all at ease.
I love spirituality and enjoy religion as well, but I find that there are many of us who would like something more measurable and tangible to lean into. Having a powerful faith and spirituality myself, I think that might be easier for me to say than it is to get done for most. What I have found is more of a farmer’s guidebook to the law of manifestation. How to build it yourself.
Can you tell us a story about a particular individual who was impacted by this cause?
I worked with a lady I’ll never forget, she was beginning her 40s with thousands of dollars spent unsuccessfully to help assist a pregnancy for almost 10 years. I got a chance to measure how her frequency was playing out in her names and numbers. It looked like she was ‘stuck’ in a youth space, where her energetic container was not yet approaching its ‘mother’ level. I had the intention of helping her to find alignment in her life through reading her chart and helping her find a version of her name that aligned with her.
She went on to become pregnant within six weeks and reported the profound shift within her that came from this feeling that I already knew her better than she knew herself. She was amazed and stunned, being a logical human being at your wits end. I wasn’t expecting her to tell me that she was having a baby. Or that she would then get pregnant naturally for a 2nd time a few years later. When she started telling this story to our community, I had a handful of people stand up and say that they got pregnant or found their love story after talking to me.
What was it that I said to her, or those other claims? I’m a skeptical person, it couldn’t have been just a new name, just a conversation? They had to have been on the path already, and I was just the last marker in their journey? I am reserved on how I feel about these claims and experiences. I feel like inherent in us is the greatness we desire. We are already on this path to achieve it. If you are reading this now, then I feel like you are already very late in the stages of becoming as successful as you desire. I feel like the role my friendship plays is like the key starter to an already working machine and ignition waiting to get started.
Was there a tipping point that made you decide to focus on this particular area? Can you share a story about that?
Failure was always a pendulum swinging score-keeper in my life. I felt like I had to properly create a solid success before it would just broom sweep everything from my life habitually. I have gotten so good at timing it, that I even went into my last challenging time in life with such a serene sense of awareness.
I just have to quickly say that I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for a few very important failures in my life. There were the times I wish I would be able to disappear and crawl into a hole. The most embarrassing points of my life, have been cornerstone intersections to what I feel has become a great life. I am grateful for every failure and misery that I’ve experienced, its taught me mountains more than any win ever has.
I was an aspiring entrepreneur selling very expensive network marketing products. With a history of failure and inconsistency, my family and friends weren’t too eager to do business with me. I was really failing at this business too. I was asked during my mentorship if I needed to be successful with this business in order to be successful in life. I was almost offended because of how deeply I wanted to be rich.
I remembered my training one day, where we design the perfect customer. We had to create this ideal client that we would develop our marketing for. Even if this was MY focus, there would be a certain type of person who would be looking for me anyways. This was something for me, that I had to respond for. I wanted to do business with young professional millennials who were leadership-driven entrepreneurs, wanting to build massive sales teams. Instead, a spread of parents and decade-long career masters changing direction in success or love, were seeking me out, looking to have their numerology ‘fixed’.
It was with a blessed humility that I realized that my ability was more than just selling products, but that I was helping engineer dreams and visions together at a grand scale.
Are there three things the community/society/politicians can do to help you address the root of the problem you are trying to solve?
- Rethink what life is for. We teach our kids to obey and measure up arbitrary information that plugs up our brain with nonsense. We live in an age where information is processed faster than we can learn. We fill up our minds for 20 years with stuff that we may only use a fraction of. If we reverse the concept and empower our children very young, I think we may not have an angry and dependent society in 40 years.
- Integrate Spirituality and Math. I joke about how numerology is where you count letters and read numbers. I also grin when I say that this is the math class that you will never get in school. Now being asked this question, I see the serious dilemma in how absent we are in teaching our children the value of frequency in their language and energy.
- I would definitely say that we can upgrade how we appreciate our inner mind self-talk, beliefs and blocks. We need to create friends out of the enemies in our minds and create an alliance within ourselves. I feel like the main challenge is that society is programmed to mislead our happiness along this event horizon, getting lost in a black hole. My theory is that, for a time, it was easier to keep humanity in a haze of control, somewhere between fear and uncertainty. We were taught to cling to what is safe and avoid what is scary. Then we were programmed to believe we aren’t enough for some reason, but that for a price we can cover that difference. This is a self-fulfilling cycle that has us looking to trade our effort for a solution to what we can’t create ourselves. I hope every person feels me. Finds that thing right inside of them all along. Before they have to spend time, effort, and energy to find out.
What specific strategies have you been using to promote and advance this cause? Can you recommend any good tips for people who want to follow your lead and use their social platform for a social good?
I have picked up a specially curated spectrum of education along my path. I have been studying Law of Attraction, the scientific work around the power of intention and belief, and the most instrumental strategy was given to me by my son’s kindergarten teacher: Learn through play.
So specifically it has come down to being a social media influence brand. We are helping entrepreneurs through their personal development journey, as they upgrade their language and awareness through the power of alignment. I took that awareness and made a really powerful connection between gratitude, wealth, failure, and what we win to lose something.
My tip for all you aspiring mentors and speakers, entrepreneurs and fire-breathing dragons, wondering if you should take the jump? Rate your problems, challenges, and defeats, failures from 1–10 severity. Create awareness for the people who love to watch and interact with you, about these 1–3 level problems you’ve overcome in your life. Create the story for them so they may live in the champion of you. Move on to level 4–6 level severity of problems you handle and talk about in to a more private audience. Watch how confident you grow in life when you have people to share in your power with.
This is your most direct way to creating authentic relationships that will trust you on their path. Your inspiration to others isn’t based on what your special trick in business is. I love numerology it’s awesome. But you are so much more than just a number sequence. Your story is a heart magnet waiting to connect to someone else, feeling alone or helpless.
If you don’t go out there to share your story, and what you went through, who will write it? Who will save that person in the real-life audience? I know this is kind of deep here but I have done so much work on my past, pain, addiction, and suffering. I encourage you to grab those diamonds. If an event almost killed you or took you out, then chances are they will have the power to save someone else in the future. You were brave enough to experience it the second time to make it a chapter of your greatness.
What are your “5 things I wish someone told me when I first started” and why? Please share a story or example for each.
- Don’t pull over for every failure. Sally and I went to an exclusive 3-day business build event. My mentor who was already hosting television and producing books taught me that we lose our momentum if we exaggerate every failure and trip up. He introduced me to this concept about staying in the flow of creation, and let every slip delete immediately, without adding insult to injury.
- Your current state is a reflection of your past actions. Your future state is a reflection of your current actions. Being able to pull these two timelines apart is vital. I was hitting a wall dealing with my debt after I found success. I had started to make money but I was being pulled back by these old programs that had poor belief systems. My mentor told me that I am seeing now what I have done, and what I do now, will show itself later. I was instructed to untie these two spaces from each other, and stop blaming my current state on my current actions.
- I wish someone would have told me the true nature of sales, and what we buy, the reasons for buying. I spent so much of my early career in business trying to make sales because I felt like I had the perfect reason why someone should buy. I never sat with them to find out why they wanted to buy anything. This was my greedy eyes bigger than my heart. I wish I had learned how valuable it was to hold space for someone’s path, and their own motivations vs mine.
- Beware the carrot that dangles in front of you. Early on in life, I was given this recipe for success. How to live a good life was about making enough money to support having a couple of kids having luxurious executive experiences through life. I would need to have Vacations, expensive cars, and a desire to create and achieve more, and to serve my community, or always be a person who will help someone. It seemed very easy to buy into this program. I was committed to creating this lifestyle and blessed to live like this well before my 40s. It didn’t satisfy me. Making money I thought would answer my problems. All it did was turn the page. All I did was get a bigger carrot. All that happened was that I found a better thing to dangle in front of me. It never ended. There is a deeper mechanism inside us all: The distance between me and the carrot that I’ll ‘never reach’. Learn how to get that which dangles in front of you, ASAP. I feel like it’s the only way to truly realize that the fulfillment in your life isn’t actually about getting that carrot at all.
- Don’t sell to your family or friends. Put them on a sacred holy grail, engraved in a magical box of radioactive material. Do not touch them. The keyword here is that I wish someone told this to me when I got “started.” I was immature, and novice in my ability to have a conversation, or how to politely not piss off my uncles and aunties. These small groups of sacred people are some of the most misguided advice we would die over for the most irrational reasons. Don’t mess with it. Your family is something completely different. The pain and challenges are that in a social media world, they are part of your audience. But I remember The Nintendo Duck Hunt game. You weren’t supposed to shoot your own dog. Just like in sales, let them be a company guide with you, but don’t expect them to sit at every business table you sit at.
You are a person of enormous influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂
Sally and I are currently in operations to create our Eco Power Plant on natural grounds on Vancouver Island. Here we aim to create a safe haven space for independent lifestyle enthusiasts to heal and thrive with us along their journey of influence. Through our private teaching, we already offer a tangible strategy to develop a new generation of free thinkers. We are not the first, and we’ve set our aims to the same accomplishments of our direct mentors. I believe that getting your reality manifested has a lot to do with selecting your mentorship carefully. Our goal is to wake up a new generation of power within us. A decentralized and redistributed self-worth. I can’t take responsibility for everyone who joins us, but I do take with great care, what I give to this world. Unlocking someone’s potential is the greatest treasure I could ever know.
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
“You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want” Zig Ziglar. One of the first true signs to creating the success I actually desired. I was reading his sales book, as personal development, while I was working as a customer retention agent at a call centre job. I had a plethora of job experience by this point. It had already resonated deep within me that the success of my reality would be as a result of creating success for those who chose to work with me. My mentality to profitability was the win-win.
Is there a person in the world, or in the US whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this, especially if we tag them. 🙂
Definitely Dr. Joe Dispenza. I would have lunch with! His work really helped me to have a solid grip on reality as I went into a deeper and more spiritual understanding of our mechanics. The way he weaves it together has left me in appreciation for how we are evolving into a new level of consciousness.
How can our readers further follow your work online ?
I am Live on Facebook on Saturdays at 4:44 pm PST and share on Instagram under Bobby F Parihar. My website is www.CreateLoveAndWealth.xyz
This was very meaningful, thank you so much!
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